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Recovery is the worst... ;)

June 23rd, 2017 at 03:08 pm

Not really. I know I should be grateful to be alive and all, but boy, recovering from surgery is so boring!! It's a mental willpower game!

I'm not the kind of person who sits around all day. And right now, I can't do much else but sit around all day. I see things that need cleaned up, and I want to clean them, but I'm not physically able to, then I'm annoyed looking at them. Uh, is that normal??

And of course, now that I've stopped taking pain meds (talk about the worst) and am through the mental fog, the kids think I can take them to do this and that, but I can't drive, can't walk very far, can't do anything fun.

Gah!! Will I ever be back to normal??????

20 Responses to “Recovery is the worst... ;)”

  1. ceejay74 Says:

    On the bright side, this restlessness is probably a good sign that you're recovering! Hang in there

  2. Dido Says:

    "This too shall pass. Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. It's not what happens to you, it's how you think about it that matters." Those three mantras got me through my own medical crisis/major surgery & prolonged recovery 17 years ago. Good luck and take the opportunity to indulge yourself in something enjoyable. I read more "cozy mysteries" (my "drug" of choice) back during my 7 week hospital stay than at any other time during before or since.

  3. ThriftoRama Says:

    I certainly am catching up on my reading!

  4. crazyliblady Says:

    Don't push yourself too hard. Your husband is helping to take care of you, right? As far as cleaning goes, can you get someone to come in and clean your house so that you're not worried about it?

    It's a good thing you are pretty solid in your finances so that you don't have that to worry about while recovering. And you have lots of time to write. Big Grin
    Get well soon!

  5. My English Castle Says:

    Nothing like enforced confinement to make you stir-crazy. I think it's especially hard with kidlets around. Any help from the neighbors or their friends? Or you could chant, "serenity now!"

  6. creditcardfree Says:

    I remember taking my neighbors kids to the pool for an afternoon when she was recovering from gall bladder surgery. The kids loved it and it helped their mom. I hope someone could do this for you! You will be better soon enough to do the things you did before.

  7. LuckyRobin Says:

    Yes, you will feel normal again. At two weeks your brain will start being able to do more complicated thinking again like balancing a checkbook, at six weeks you'll start feeling like you are capable of getting around in a much easier fashion and should be able to drive for short trips, not long ones, but you will tire extraordinarily easily and exhaustion comes much faster. After three months you'll be able to do more and not be quite so tired from it, but you'll still be slowed down and have some pain if you exert yourself too much in that part of your body. It takes about 6 months to really and truly feel back to normal, to not wince when you move too quickly or the wrong way, and that like you have conquered it at last.

    It's a slow process, but it was major surgery. That's why having child care or day camp or something for the kids is so important the first few weeks. Don't let what your kids think you should be able to do dictate what you are able to do. You'll set yourself back if you try to live up to their expectations right now. And get someone to come in and do some chores if your husband can't pick up the slack, but he may not even notice the little things that are bugging you if you don't say something. I call this male pattern blindness. A family member or friend should be able to help some if you can't afford it. You may have to let your normal levels of tidiness go for several weeks.

    It's easy to be bored. Can you find something addictive to binge watch? That makes the time go faster, but it has to be addictive.

  8. Bluebird Says:

    Male pattern blindness!!! I love it! Thrift, I hope you take it easy, all the stuff that's bugging you can wait. Your health is the most important thing!

  9. ThriftoRama Says:

    I know, right? I nearly laughed so hard at male pattern blindness that I popped a stitch!

    Ugh, but 6 months????? I can't wait that long (Pout while I feel sorry for myself) Frown
    Can you tell being on pause is hard for me?

    On the upside, I am catching up on the Sookie Stackhouse (TrueBlood) book series. I'm on No. 4 and the next one is at the library, and I'm gearing up to re-read the Tightwad Gazette books, since I'll need some inspiration to be thrifty considering the unknown $$$ in medical bills that will be coming my way soon. We just drained our savings to pay for a new roof, thinking THAT was the emergency, then two weeks later, there's this. So yeah. I'm not feeling thrilled financially.

    DH goes back to work Monday. He'll take the kids to camp and pick them up, and my mom will come up and watch them at least once a week. Big helps. Now we just need to hope he holds onto that job,w ith all these bills and the health insurance.

    As for entertainment, it's been reading and naps. Today is the first day I felt well enough to sit straight up in my computer chair.

    I'm lucky to have the two bestest friends in the world. They dropped off a big stack of my all-time fav comedy movies (AB fab, all the seasons, plus She Devil with Meryl Streep.) I also set up my netflix DVD que so all the movies I couldn't get to see in the theater are lined up and ready to be delivered.

    Other than reading and napping... I guess the house will just have to be messy.

  10. laura Says:

    Yay for recovery! My husband's six month scan came back "stable" which means he's passed with flying colors and on for another scan in six months time. Hope that's the course for you, too!

    And AB Fab ... nothing better than that ...

    Glad to hear its going good!

  11. MonkeyMama Says:

    It just takes time.

    I don't recall needing any time of note to recover from any surgeries. BUT... It sounds like abdominal type surgery has a longer recovery and is more of a bear. While I think it's best to be mentally prepared for the worst case, I personally wouldn't expect it to take so long to recover. Everyone heals at their own pace. I do think that getting enough rest and making your healing a priority is what will give you any edge. Beyond that, we are all wired differently, and it is what it is. You've got lots of time to come to terms with that part. Big Grin May you be a fast healer!

  12. PatientSaver Says:

    Glad you're feeling a wee bit better. What were the doc's instructions as far as recuperation, and what you should and shouldn't do? Have they called to check up on you? Do you have a follow-up visit scheduled yet?

  13. ThriftoRama Says:

    Yes, they've checked up on me, and I go in on Wednesday for my in-person visit. He says 2 to 3 weeks and I'll be back to my old self. But, I've known a lot of doctors who are optimistic about what being back to normal means!

  14. MonkeyMama Says:

    That's pretty good! I was thinking this was more like 6-8 weeks recovery (average) or something like that, given your post and the comments. I think you will feel better in no time. It just feels like *forever* when you are stuck off of your feet.

  15. LuckyRobin Says:

    They always say 2 to 3 weeks, but I've never found it to be true with abdominal surgery. Most of the doctors who say that have never had abdominal surgery. Even laporoscopy took 6 weeks to be mostly functional. It's not like you won't be able to do anything, or even most things after six weeks, but it won't be completely back to normal. I've found there are a lot of forward and backward steps, the backwards ones coming when you push too fast too soon. I've had out my gall bladder, appendix, 3 laporoscopies for endometriosis, a tumor removed, and a complete hysterectomy, so I've been down this road a lot. Anything they take out through the abdomen or the back area reverse of it, you don't snap back as fast as say sinus surgery or tonsils out which is really about 2 weeks. You use the muscles in that area too much, to sit up, to stand, getting dressed and undressed, brushing your teeth, to reach for things, to pick stuff up off the floor, to put things in and out of the dishwasher, washer, and dryer, to get dressed, to lay down, and even to unzip your purse. The thing that lasts the longest other than pain twinges is how easily you will tire out, so building in extra breaks or rest times throughout the day will be very helpful. So will making your kids and husband understand that you need those, as you will look normal, but not quite be there. Hopefully you will heal super fast, and I am praying for that, but just know it can take more time than you expected and definitely more time than the doctors claim.

  16. ThriftoRama Says:

    Thanks, LuckyRobin.

    I figured as much.

    Pretty much every time the doctor told me I'd be up and about in X amount of time, that wasn't really the case. Full recovery took much longer. It was usually a nurse or physical therapist who gave me the real truth.

    But, I do feel 1000 times better than I did last Saturday and much better than when I left the hospital, so as long as I stay on this trajectory, I'll be happy. I just want to be able to sleep in the positions I can normally sleep in and be able to take my kids places this summer!

    Also, I do want to get back to my daily core, abs, and leg workouts, but I know that's gonna be a while.

    I'm lucky in that my body has always been resilient, but who knows if it will this time. This is a total unknown to me.

  17. PatientSaver Says:

    When I had my abdominal surgery, they said 6 to 8 weeks. I went back to work in the 3rd week, but could only work about a half day for a while becus I just felt real fatigued.

  18. MonkeyMama Says:

    That's horrible! I've never had a Doctor sugarcoat surgery recovery. (Quite the opposite). That is just unbelievable to me. Ugh. (Not that I don't believe you, but in a "what the hell is wrong with people?" kind of way).

  19. rob62521 Says:

    Remember that old slogan about praying for patience and wanting it right now? I think that is some of what you are going through. You feel well enough to realize you aren't 100% and you want to be healed immediately. You will get better. It will take time. And the fact you are getting frustrated I would say is a good sign because you are healing. As for the stuff that isn't getting cleaned or whatever, guess what? It will be there. The cleaning fairy never came to my house when I was recovering so I doubt if she (or he) will make an appearance at yours. Don't push yourself. It's OK to be weak and faired. Patient Saver has it right...take it easy. And Monkey Mama, you would be surprised at how many medical folks sugar coat the recovery and then you sit there and think there's something wrong with you because you can't do everything and get tired easily.

  20. VS_ozgirl Says:

    Glad to hear you came through the operation ok, hoping you feel normal again really soon!

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