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Death and Rebates

May 18th, 2015 at 09:54 pm

Sadly, I'm not trying to be funny with the title. The dad of one of our first grader's friends died from cancer yesterday. I'm trying to figure out how to handle it. We have casual conversations with the mom, but the parents were divorced and I'm not sure how often he saw the kids. But still, he was crying at school and the teachers and counselors talked to the whole class about death and cancer this morning. We were also invited to the memorial.

I really feel for the boy. First grade and losing your dad. Those are big feelings at that age. I had my son draw him a picture, and we were planning to drop off homemade cookies, drawings and cards for the boy and his older sister tomorrow after school. I also thought we should go to the memorial, so this little boy has at least one friend there if he needs it.

Do you think that is appropriate? I know the mom, who is the only parent I met, didn't have much nice to say about him, but you really only get one dad, and I'm sure the kid is upset. Ugh.With any other set of parents, I'd know what to do. Modern life is so complicated.

On the rebate side, we got a check today for $243 that we weren't expecting. The toilet in our hall bathroom was leaking, and we called the plumber so we could figure out exactly what , where and why it was leaking. It cost more than I wanted to pay: about $650. But, they did figure out there was a crack in the toilet base. They sent us a check today because they looked into it and the toilet company paid for the replacement toilet because the crack in the base made it defective, and it was still under warranty.

I'm impressed with the plumber' follow up. It was nice of them to check, and then to send us a check. We were pretty much resigned to not get a dime back.

4 Responses to “Death and Rebates”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    I think your plans are good ones. You are being supportive of the child in a difficult time.

  2. Ima saver Says:

    Yes, I think you should go. My dad died when I was in the 5th grade and it was very hard. The little boy needs a friend there.

  3. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    I think taking your son to the memorial to be there for the boy whose Dad died is a really good idea. Quite a few first graders actually have no idea at all what death is. No idea. The boy may just see all these grown ups acting weird from his point of view. Having your child there to play with a little may help both him and his Mom. Personally, I'd take a couple of pocket size toys with me. Like Hotwheels or Matchbox. Bring them out if you see either of the kids needs distraction. A single rubberband to fidget with used to placate my kid when he was that age and in a crowd of grown-ups.

  4. snafu Says:

    I too think it's wonderful of you and DS to go to the memorial. I can't even begin to imagine how hurt and bewildered a 1st grader would feel to first lose his dad via divorce and then lose him permanently through illness. I'm sure his mom will be grateful that you care enough about her boy to be there for him.

    On the happier note, how wonderful to get an unexpected $ 243. for the faulty toilet. I'm impressed that the plumber followed through with the supplier.

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