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So this is 40?

March 17th, 2015 at 01:44 pm

Yes. I turned 40 March 13. And it was awesome.

My best friend in California who I haven't seen in 5 years flew out to surprise me, my friends had a big party for me, and my mom and sister paid someone to put giant fake buzzards and tombstones in my yard. There was also a grim reaper on my birthday cake. I always secretly wanted the cheesy cakes and tombstone stuff when I made the big 4-0 and I got it!

And, then there is real life. I put my notice in at my freelance gig last week, and thought I'd be nervous, but it turns out making the decision was the hardest part. I feel like a weight has been lifted off of me, and it's also made me feel like my 40s will be what I actually imagined my 30s would be like-- the decade of finally accomplishing many of the things I set out to do with my life. If this feeling is what a mid-life crisis is, I'll take it!

Okay okay, I admit I have spent the last year or so giving a lot of thought to what I wanted the next part of my life to be. I did this in part to so that turning 40 would be positive, rather than a "holy crap" I need to do something different, now, before it's too late.

So, what am I going to do with myself? Well, take care of the kids like I always do. But, I've been working on my first novel for five years and it's finally finally finally in it's final revision. I hope to send it out this summer, so the rejection letters can start rolling in.

While my novel is out there getting rejected, I have plans for three more, plus some short stories. I'm amped. I always set out to be a writer, so I ended up in journalism. I've worked at newspapers and magazines. It was great experience, yes, and I'm happy I did it, but I never intended to take that route. I had always planned to write books, and now, I'm going to do it.

I'm blessed that we're savers and we aren't going to miss any meals while I finally pursue the dream. I don't know. Something about turning 40 made me look at my life, my job, my habits and think "Do I want to spend the next 10 years doing what I did the last 10 years?"

The answer was no, so now I've entered a new phase. Let's hope it works out!

Oh, and in financial news, I put a freelance check for $500 into my IRA for 2015. Ever since we've decided to stick to a weekly budget, we have more money in the bank. It's been worth it.

13 Responses to “So this is 40?”

  1. MonkeyMama Says:

    Happy Birthday! Here's to your 40s!

  2. Ima saver Says:

    Congratulations! I made the decision to leave the area that I had always live, both quit our jobs, and move to the mountains, a few months before my 40th birthday. It was the best thing I ever did and I never reqretted it!

  3. CB in the City Says:

    The forties are an absolutely great time of life. Happy Birthday!

  4. Laura S. Says:

    Happy belated birthday!

  5. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    Happiness and joy to you; Happy birthday!

  6. creditcardfree Says:

    Happy Birthday and welcome to your 40s! I think you will enjoy the time very much since you gave so much reflection to what you want to accomplish. Congratulations on that very smart move. I hope to read your published books someday!

  7. ceejay74 Says:

    Happy birthday! I was the same way as 40 approached, very conscious about making sure I was focused on personal development. I finished my first novel three months before my birthday, and decided to learn how to wear makeup, throw a big party, and sign up and train for a 5k (which I completed!) It was great to enter my 40s feeling focused, capable and accomplished. As you did too! Smile

  8. Bluebird Says:

    Happy Birthday!!!

  9. Shiela Says:

    Happy Birthday. Congrats on your first novel to be.

  10. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    Happy Birthday!

  11. scfr Says:

    Welcome to your best decade so far!

  12. LuckyRobin Says:

    Happy Birthday to you!

  13. VS_ozgirl Says:

    Happy birthday and best of luck to your exciting new chapter!

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