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Small triumphs

March 17th, 2009 at 04:06 am

I am trying to concentrate on the small triumphs lately, as things have been difficult at casa de thriftorama.

The good stuff: I am so far meeting my new year's goal to have stitch n bitch at my house. Everyone has been coming over twice a month since January, so that is nice.

Almost all of the seeds have sprouted, so my garden is off to a good start. I am pretty excited about that.

On to the other stuff:

I had no idea how profoundly having Beaner would change my life. I love him so much. But he is so exhausting. And, hubby and I have almost zero time together anymore. It's really changed our relationship, and frankly, we both liked the way it was before Beaner was around a lot more. Quality time is out the window, and I see no end in sight.

I'm still pretty sad and miss my dad, who died in July. The Bean just makes the pain more intense, because I wish so badly that dad could have held on longer to see how cool of a person his only grandbaby is turning in to. He ever looks likes my dad. (besides being bald and toothless).

I've made no headway on the Tiki fund goal. I am having trouble getting motivated. But, I mentioned before that I am having trouble being motivated and staying on track for all of my savings goal. The malaise has just spread to the tiki fund.

For some reason, this year I am seriously annoyed by my remaining student loan balance and am considering making getting rid of that the No.1 priority. I have yet to shift any money around or rearrange any automatic deposits, but I am still mulling it over.

8 Responses to “Small triumphs”

  1. whitestripe Says:

    i was recently watching a tv show called Bringing Up Baby which was about 3 different styles of parenting (50's, 60's, and 70's). While I mostly disagreed with the 50's style (as it was very intense and i felt a little cruel at times) it did emphasise on parents resuming their normal lives after having a baby. It is mostly centred on routine, and once a baby is in a routine they are easier to manage and parents are able to spend more time together. I would never go to the extent that the method conveys, but i do feel routine is important. maybe if you looked into ways of having time together, say if bean had a routine nap time or bed time, that you and your hubby could then spend together?

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    Good suggestion whitestripe. Although my kids are older, I understand how you feel, because I remember when they were little. They do grow up fast, and in time, it will get better. Trust me. There will be more time for you together. ((hugs))

  3. Swimgirl Says:

    The baby that changed my life the most (the first one) is going to graduate from high school and go off to college in a few months. I have no idea where those 18 years went. It flew by, seriously. But everything was easier before kids...less laundry, more flexible cooking, more time, more naps... hang in there.

  4. my english castle Says:

    It's a long haul with little ones. It's hard not to let your original ideas of what your life would be like go--but kids do that. And although DD is 6 now, our life hasn't returned to "normal" yet--it's just another version of "normal." Hang in there. But believe me--it does get more doable as you go.

  5. thriftorama Says:

    He does have a regular bedtime, but by that time, hubby has been at work all day and wants to veg out and play video games and it means it's time for me to start working. I can only get my work done at night, so still, no time together.

  6. fruitbowlk Says:

    How old is your bean? The older they get the more independent they get and your relationship can return back to it use to be.

  7. monkeymama Says:

    I found age 3 to be a good turning point. They go to school, they sleep better, they play more independently, etc. You can leave a week and they don't care as much. I feel like I am slowly but surely returning to a pre-kid lifestyle. Resuming more of my hobbies, etc. Hang in there!

  8. thriftorama Says:

    He'll be 1 on April first.

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