Geesh. Easy peasy!
Ever since I've had children I'm exhausted, stressed-out, and angry. All the time. I used to be very relaxed and easy going, level-headed and fun. I don't like who I've turned into. I want to be my old self again.
Take better care of myself. I haven't had any time for my appearance since having kids 3 years ago. I look terrible. It's shameful really. I don't buy clothes because I haven't lost the baby weight and I don't want to spend the money when I'm hoping to lose it.
I'd have a real relationship with hubby. I miss how close we were before kids, and all the fun we used to have. Now, it's all work work work, kids kids kids.
Our friends tell us it will get better, but that seems so far away.
As you can tell, life has gone downhill in many ways since we had children. I adore my kids. and I love them very much, but let's be realistic. They change everything, and in ways you can't ever imagine before you have them. I want to get back to where I was in these areas.
What I would change...
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No answers or solutions - all I do know is that sometimes when it was the worst, all of a sudden, something would get easier or better.
Before long, and definitely by the time you're an old mom and graying like me, you come to realize that every aspect of your life is in a constant state of flux, and that children, somehow, let you see that more clearly.
(Wow, and then you get to say things that may or may not make sense because old moms still have long days with their older kids and work, and are tired and should be getting to bed!)
Anyway - you've got many balls in the air (I read your blog!) and you are a great juggler. But make sure one of those balls is just for you, and another is for you and your husband. As you've well noticed work and kids will grab for all of the attention, but you, alone and with your husband, are equally important, if not more so at times. Take care and best wishes!!